for centuries women have fought tooth and nail to be able to take care of ourselves because it is a privilege. when you can change your own oil and fix your own plumbing you don’t have to worry about being stuck with a man who beats you into submission. women who can change tires and gouge eyes out don’t waste time covering bruises with foundation or hiding dollar bills between pages of books in hopes that one day they’ll have enough to change their name in a new town. no. not all men are like this. just enough for me to be afraid. to clutch my keys between my fingers whenever i leave my house alone. enough for me to invest in pepper spray. i haven’t always known how to take care of myself.